Written by : Brent Logan https://writers.work/brentwoodwrites & BrentWoodWrites.com
First-off I strongly believe it's important to be an open-minded person. Probably the most underrated self-help technique you can use. It helps with all aspects of your life. Being able to understand that mental health issues are a common and normal thing to have. When I realized that, it changed my life. Seeing that these people that you'd went to high school with are in the exact same situation as you. Seeing people from all over the world are like you. Sure they may live differently, and have different backgrounds and stories than you. But we are all people trying their best to get through the day, and to get through life. One thing that has motivated me is something you will hear 1000 times over. If you don't like something than make a change. And its so true. Make a change in your life, find what's going to make you happy. For me, it wasn't losing that 20-40 pounds that I could definitely stand to lose. I had done that before, so I knew making myself physically fit (although important) wasn't gonna make me happy. It gave me false ego, made me feel good but my head was the issue not my body. Now don't get me wrong, being physically healthy has a ton of benefits and can raise your self-esteem, maybe the thing you're missing is your physical confident. Go for it if so!
For me it was mental, my mental blockage seemed endless. I couldn't break through it. Constantly feeling like a burden to others. Noticing I couldn't be fully present in conversations because there was too much going on in my head. Looking back I think that was the problem. There was always so many ideas and thoughts going on, and i never completed any of them. It certainly makes you feel down. I started being negative and thinking of life in negative ways. Not realizing how much I had to be thankful for. Not putting my ideas into action, and putting in the hard work that comes with them. That was the problem. I always thought life would be easy. I knew I was a good, smart kid and I would succeed in life. But once I got into "real life" I realized how hard it was. And how easy it is to settle in life. How easy it is to lose your creativity, dreams and goals. It's because most of us myself included, like to think of the end goal. Forgetting how hard it will actually be to get there, and the work required for you to get where you want to be. Most cases doing it in your spare time because you have a job, and bills to pay.
What I've started doing to break those walls down and get to the light, is to think of the small things in life. This is so true in many aspects of life. In relationships, sure the little things mostly go unnoticed and unappreciated but, you don't realize how much of an impact they make. Like if you tried to make up for being a bad partner for the last year/month/week by doing something big with them in hopes to fix your relationship. It's not gonna happen, unless you start doing those little things whatever they may be; cleaning the house, your dishes or your side of the room. Finishing the DIY project you've had going for a year or cleaning up your tools in the garage haha you get the point. Same goes with the relationship with yourself. If you don't work on yourself and the steps that you've made to try to make you happy, but you decide to go on a trip or go to the bar and drink it out (which I've done a couple of times.) it's never going to keep you happy. It'll act like a placebo effect and that happy feeling will go as quick as the experience was from your normal life. Even into my job, I've realized you'll never go home thinking, WOW IM SO FULFILLED FROM MY JOB TODAY, IM SO HAPPY! Most days are never like this. As an employee you're constantly working to someone else's benefit. Of course you'll never be fulfilled. As a person you need to realize, most jobs and most people are never going to make you feel whole. That's the selfishness coming out of you. But it's good selfishness. It's because you want to notice you're making a change, or that you have purpose in your life. Everyone's different some people are simple and are happy being a parent and settling for simple joys in life. Then you have people who are a little more complex, and need more personal motivation in their life. I'm a people person, I've noticed how when I go to my job, some of my co-workers call me sunshine. And to me that's so cool. Something as little as that makes me see that I've had this positive impact on life here at work. Rather than hearing that, and thinking "why the f*** are they calling me sunshine." Little changes like that are what has changed my life. And realizing if you be positive you do have a purpose every day, it's to spread your positiveness because some people forget it. Be a light in the dark.
You need to take action, understand that everyone's different. Understand we all have a purpose here on earth and if you think yours is bigger, reach for it. Set your goals, plant your seeds and run with them. At least try to. People are afraid of being rejected and the failure that might come with it. I would way rather fail knowing I gave it my all then half assing it and accepting defeat, because it's too hard. That is something we all strive for as human beings, to have a connection with something or someone. Find it and never let it go. Nobody wants to live a life of regrets, so stop worrying about what you haven't done and focus on what you're going to do. People see you for who you are now and in the future, so you need to decide who you want to be. Take action. I'll quote a lyric from one of the most inspiring and talented artist out there, Nas. "The World is Yours" See most of these people that we idolize didn't get where they are now because it was easy. Some worked hard and got where they are today. Some used the challenges that were surrounding their whole life like fire to spark a flame inside them. But all of them put their heart and soul into what they did or what they do, and that's what made them special. They worked harder than most people, they took their ideas and ran with them. They made a connection with what they do, so we can feel it too.
Put passion in what you do and always strive to be a better person. Be always open-minded because you can learn from anybody. You'll never be able know what someone goes through so, be respectful, learn to focus on changing and challenging yourself. One great quote a close friend of mine told me before is,
"Change won't come from the Outside, it Comes from Within."
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Written by : Brent Logan https://writers.work/brentwoodwrites & BrentWoodWrites.com
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